p.14 Dr Phil McGraw Family First
"Living with unresolved grief is like keep a pot of boiling water bubbling on a stove. You can try to keep the lid on but eventually the pot will boil over. In this state, your emotions are likely to remain turbulent, your relationships off balance, your behaviour anxious, erratic & tending toward anger, your mind distracted, & your health prone to stress-related conditions, such as high blood pressure.
Lasting healing can only occur when you can look plainly at the causes of your pain, deal with it as a reality, experience it fully & let it go. Often, this means shedding tears. It is a process that takes time to complete. It can't be rushed. It is as individual as you are. There is no formula for how many weeks, months, or years it will take, nor how many tears will be shed or hours of thought consumed along the way. And you may despair as you re-experience feelings of loss many times over before you feel ready to move on with life.
Three good practical ways I have used to commence the process of releasing grief are talking, thinking & writing...remember to be gentle on yourself...set your own pace..."
p. Brian Babington, Bouncing Back
These are some books I am reading at the moment. (Our local Library has the most amazing collection of books!)